Honeymoon fund

Would you ask guests for money towards your honeymoon as your wedding gift?

I think that's a good idea - I wouldn't feel cheeky about asking for it!

I'm considering this. I think it's a great option if you're not looking for new stuff for your house.

Most people already live together and have bought all of their homeware before they marry, so a honeymoon is definitely the best option instead of this.

It's a normal thing now. Plenty of ppl do it . Might be a bit of a modern phenomenon but I don't see a problem with it.

I myself think that this is not a bad thing to do as most ppl are already living together anyway& hve mainly got the things that they want already so yes a honeymoon pot is good.

I suppose it also depends where you're going -your guests could probably entirely fund a camping trip, but if you were planning on going to the Maldives then you would need some pretty generous guests!

I like this idea, but I think we're just going to opt to ask for money if people are happy to do it. It's likely that any money we get will go towards the honeymoon or spending money whilst we're there.

I think you can set something up with a travel company so that guests can just ring up and pay what they'd like to, then you pay whatever's left over after your wedding. I think it's a great thing to ask for.

I've written a poem to put in with the invitations asking for money instead of gifts to fund our honeymoon.

We're cutting as many costs as possible to pay for our wedding so hopefully if we have a good gift pot and a wealthy lump after paying for the wedding, we can go somewhere nice and hot!

Excellent idea cmanning. I like these little poems -they're a sweet and gentle way of being "cheeky"! (Even though it's not even cheeky, it's just being practical! Who wants two toasters and loads of M&S vouchers anyway?...).

We're trying to do this but I always feel really awkward asking! The poem thing is a great idea, might have to get the wife on that as she's a bit more creative than me.

I think it's a great idea. I've been to weddings where they've asked for money/ vouchers for a certain shop, and as a guest I didn't think it was cheeky, I'd rather know I've given them something they want than try to guess what to buy and it ends up never being used!

We've been looking at booking our honeymoon through Trailfinders, they actually set up a gift registry where people can give however much they want online or over the phone. I quite like the thought of actually paying the cost of the honeymoon ourselves and using the gift money to upgrade our room or go on a tour somewhere.

Wish I had done this. All these years later we still have useless bits of random stuff people got us as wedding presents sat unused around the house!

I think it's a great idea, and personally I'd much rather give people cash to get what they want rather than choosing something that they're not fussed on/already have.

Exactly. You'd have to really know someone well to buy them something they genuinely wanted and would use. Otherwise it can be a risky guessing game.

I always think it's really cheeky when brides ask for money.  Although I would love all the money in the world I could never and would never ask for it off my wedding guests! haha the chances are they are in a similar financial boat!

Fair enough. And sometimes, say one of your guests can only afford £5 for your gift, if they gave you a £5 note in a card it really wouldn't look much. But if they bought you a small yet perfectly formed and heartfelt gift worth £5, such as a lovely scented candle (you can get 'wedding day' smelling ones!), then it would look much more.

Yeah I agree champagne bride, you can make things look a lot more expensive with a bit of thoughtful preparation!

Yeah I'd rather that than expecting them to buy something they can't afford. I think it's a bit too much to expect exactly what you want